You may want to pour yourself a hot cup of joe and savor it’s sweet bold goodness before leaping with me into this topic. I’m warning you, if you are looking for a lighthearted happy go lucky video this week – you may want to just pass on this episode. Like I said, you’ve been warned….
Like most people, I try to be an optimist at life. Always trying to find the good, even in a bad situation. That being said… life isn’t always kind. All my life, I’ve been told reach for the stars, dream big, hustle – and no matter the obstacles one day you will see your dreams come true. While this isn’t necessarily a bad outlook on life – it still has the potential of breaking us and tearing us down in a potentially destructive way.
What do I mean by this? Well, let’s first consider the story plot of every fairy tale, movie or book formulated with a happy ending. It’s ingrained in us wish hard enough, put a good amount of elbow grease into your dreams and one day you’ll see them come true.
But I have a question for you, one that I’ve rarely heard discussed – not to mention ever seen on the big screen.
(NO MUSIC) What if that dream that you’ve been slaving away at, writing about in your journal, creating a fail safe plan to achieve – What if that dream – never comes to true? My question is, What do you do when your plan, your dream dies? There’s no fairy godmother, no magical potion, nothing to resurrect it from it’s grimy ashes…your dream is done. What do you do then?
Carrie this is some pretty dark stuff, more like Brother’s Grimm than Disney fantasy.
But I mean think about it for a second…why don’t we talk about it more? I mean, every person at least once in their life is going to experience the death of a dream – whether on a small or grand scale. So, why don’t we talk about it more? I think it’s because hidden deep down subconscious we’ve swallowed a lie… and that lie is – If you don’t see your dream fulfilled then somehow YOU’VE FAILED.
I mean think about, what if Cinderella never met her prince? What if the Little Mermaid never became a human? Sounds pretty depressing. But here’s the thing, our dreams don’t make us great. Even our accomplishments no matter how great or small really mean nothing in the scope of time. So, what really determines greatness? I believe it’s in how we respond to failure and broken dreams. Let’s face it, like I said earlier – life isn’t kind. But after taking a moment to grieve, and there is a time to grieve, if we determine to pick ourselves back up again and start a new – the possibilities are truly endless.
Now, I know every situation is different and every grieving process has its own time. All I’m saying is I don’t want to stay there in that pit of sorrow. I don’t want to give up just because my life’s plan didn’t turn out as I originally thought. I love the idea of my life being a story slowly written day by day. I want to live my life thinking that this roadblock is merely the end of a chapter not the end of my story. If you too are facing the death of a dream, don’t loose heart. Remember our story, isn’t finished yet.
If you liked this post, you may want to check out my behind the scenes video or my story on the death of a dream – linked below. 😀